July 2011I happened to visit other blogsites and have an idea about my next article here. I long to discuss with the readers what are their parenting styles. For my family, from my eldest daughter down to the youngest, it's always my husband, their uncles and me deciding what to do with them.According to pinay Mama, a cute blog about a best mama, the excellent parenting style that should be adapted by parents is the authoritative style rather than the other 3 styles, that were, authoritarian, permissive and the uninvolved or wish-ko-lang style.
Accordingly, the Authoritarian Parenting, children are expected to follow strict commandments and orders by their parents without questioning them. Authoritarian parents desire for discipline is so predominant that their relationship with their kids is devoid or low on affection and love. They miss out on real opportunities for guidance when the child needs it most. Children with authoritarian parents are most likely to turn to someone whom they feel loved by and do not learn to think for themselves. Maybe, yes I saw some of them my neighbors, they always rely on maids, relatives than doing the guidance and support to their children themselves.
The second style is the Authoritative Parenting." which is much democratic than authoritarian. Parents impose rules but still listen to questions. They are responsive and demanding at the same time. Their children’s self-confidence is more developed and show finer emotional control. They also appear more lively, socially responsible, assertive and cooperative. A household with authoritative style of parenting has a very good, mutually respectful and responsible relationship. This is the excellent style for parenting "according to pinay Mama.Would you agree? Some parents like me adapt a balanced guidance, listen to right idea and punishes wrong behavior,which is a must according to the Bible. I want to enforce what is strict if it concerned their behavior, education and obedience to parents and God.My husband do the same and agree. It is similar to authoritarian style if most of the parents are working and not at home.
The third style is the Permissive Parenting. Parents tend to avoid disagreements at any cost. They don’t want to interfere with their kids development and let them look after themselves. Parents want to relate to their children as peers not as parents. They do not discipline their children or seldom inflict harm because they have relatively low expectations of maturity. Children with permissive parents usually engage in attention seeking behavior and grow with no strong inner sense of discipline. Through experience, this style does not work. In order for a family relationship to work, there should be a balance guidance, discipline, love and affection.Agree? I see these kind of style from low income or poor families. Being less in food and priveleges, they think enforcing too much discipline on their children at wrong behavior is an added misfortune.
The fourth and last style is the uninvolved parenting. As the name implies, parents are uninvolved. They are irresponsible and detached from their child’s life. They often reject the needs of their children. They also have no emotional involvement and child’s supervision. Their children do not have self-control, have low self-confidence and are less competent than their friends.The children of these kind of parents maybe are addicts, jobless, and out-of-school or on their own with wife and children at miserable life.Seldom they hear guidance, discipline or they just hear words that parents are in no way intervening their decisions.As long as they can feed their own family, life go on. Or children of wealthy families got these kind of style. They often rely on talks from friends, barkadas, relatives and fellow uninvolved child. As long as their parents give them allowances to spend, grant their wishes and command, shoot!But to summarize it all, they lack spiritual,
parental love and affection,just the house and phone linking them all.It even lack Biblical guidance to worship
God above all which is mostly needed in every family. Any comment? For more info about having a better behaved Child from birth to right age,visit Amazon or click on the image above.
